Mister Rogers once said, “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”
There is so much information to access about coronavirus. But taking in too much is stressful and not good for the immune system. I’m balancing my need to know with my need for self-care by getting information from only a few trusted sources. To me, experts like Dr. Anthony Fauci and Dr. Sanjay Gupta who have knowledge, data, and experience are some of the biggest helpers and heroes. They help me keep things in perspective and navigate around speculation and rumor.
The corona-crisis is a source of adversity that challenges each of us on many levels. As you cope with uncertainty, instability, and fear, it is important to remember that good things usually happen right alongside bad things.
A rose is a perfect symbol of the duel nature of adversity. Sharp thorns that can cause hurt and buds that foreshadow future growth usually accompany a beautiful rose. When bad things (thorns) happen, good things (roses) and growth potentials (buds) usually accompany it. When life is thorny, roses and buds are not always easily apparent. But when you look a little closer, you will usually find them. And if you can’t find them in the midst of adversity, they will appear soon.
By: Alison Ross, LMFT
Fear. If you're feeling it right now, you're a human being. When dealing with a threat like a pandemic your lower brain lights up with anxiety. Fear triggers uncomfortable feelings, scary thoughts, and behaviors. This activates your resources and drives you to seek a sense of safety. Today fear might have driven you to the store to buy a year's supply of disinfectant and toilet paper. :)
Be patient and loving to your fear. For all of human history, it rallied us in the face of perceived threats. It caused us to imagine the worst and take precautions. Right now your fear is helping you to reduce risk by limiting interactions, washing your hands, and keeping a safe distance from others. These actions are likely to reduce the spread of the virus, keeping vulnerable people safe as we seek remedies. Thank you fear!
Hi. I’m Alison Ross, founder of Non-Dieting Health in Agoura Hills, California. I’m a licensed psychotherapist and neurofeedback practitioner specializing in eating and body image. My favorite things are my family, my dogs, yoga and working with my clients.